A Lawyer's Journal

  Managing Loss During The Pandemic By Erin Wiley on Live Happy Podcast Erin Wiley, MA, LPCC, is a Clinical psychotherapist at, and the Executive Director of The Willow Center, a counselling practice in Toledo, Ohio. She leads a team of twenty other therapists in their goal of meeting the counselling needs of the people and families of Northwest Ohio & Southeast Michigan. The clinical focus of her therapy work is marriage, family, parenting, and relationships. She has extensive training in marriage counselling from the Gottman Institute, located in Seattle, Washington. Her most recent area of research involves the study of the management and regulation of emotion as it pertains to mental health. Let's start:- Image by  Christo Anestev  from  Pixabay   We categorize grief with the loss of marriage, pregnancy or death of someone. But there are some others too as much painful as divorce. Erin facing the loss of graduation and couldn't meet clients during this ...

  Many years ago I decided that I will not let anyone, anyone control my life. I am the master of my life. Master of my dreams and nobody has the right to intrude. I'd not let it happen. I have lived a pleasant life so far. What I want to do, I do and what I don't want, I don't. Now I have a feeling since the past couple of days that one person is trying to control my life. Following is today's Life Lesson to be learned: Visualization by John Earl Shoaff: We can get whatever we want. People make mistakes in making the choices of car, home, iPhone etc.. We live in a visualize world. If you want to bring a thing in your life, you have to visualize it. The mistake we make is to visualize negative things. I don't visualize negative things, leaving them for others. We are creators, nothing comes to us but through us. Everything you have is what you created. We have to learn to describe things. You can change life in the blink of an eye. By visualizing things as we want w...

  Covid-19 has been good for many who can manage living inside without many hurdles and I'm one of them. People say God plans everything for you and I believe it. I have all the luxuries of life and I am focussing on present and future. My mind is free of worries. Peace of mind is necessary to start anything new. Jesus Christ rested before starting a new project, Nelson Mandela rested for years in a small prison. There is some magic when you rest and think while introspecting your inner strength. 12 Magical Principles by Dr Norman Vincent Peale: Think health, talk health and act health. You will go a long way by being healthy. Provided common laws of the body. Be an actor. Acting love rather than hate. What you act tends to become a fact. Shift your thinking from what you worry. The mind can only occupy itself with one thought at a time. Think positive. Cultivate opposite. If weak cultivate power. If sad cultivate happiness. Rationalize your worries, hate, jealousy. Get a sense of ...

Hi there, how are you all? This pandemic time is pretty challenging. When it started we had no idea how life will be in it. Now almost after 6 months, we have started believing that the situation will be the same in the near future. No medicine is going to be invented, at least I have this feeling.  Image by  DarkWorkX  from  Pixabay   Design an extraordinary life by Jim Rohn Jim says it is possible and he doesn't know how far you want to go. The first essence is self-preservation. Produce sufficient for taking care of yourself.  Produce enough to take care of yourself. In a flight, if you are without oxygen then put your mask first only then put it on your children. His father said, "son you are the first most important person after me in my life". Andrew Carnegie said that the first half of his life he will spend in making money and the second half in giving it away. He earned 40 billion dollars in the first half and in the latter half he gave it away. We...

Random thoughts keep flashing in my mind. Some days are better than others. Sometimes you feel so good and other it seems like has come to a halt. Everything seems to be stopped even the wind. It feels like water in a pond which is not going anywhere. And this the beauty of life. Uncertainty makes life interesting otherwise if we knew everything life would be tedious. Image by  Malachi Witt  from  Pixabay   3 Types of people by Brian Tracy There are 3 types of people: 1 who makes things happen. 2 who wait for things to happen. 3 who ask what happened?  They don't understand that our society has gone through a fundamental transformation and it will never be the same again. We have entered in an information age where knowledge is power. Wealth today is no longer contains in plants, factory, labour, fixtures and raw material as it was in all the human history.  Today the greatest wealth contains between your 2 ears. Today wealth is contained in brainpower, not...

Psychologists say, what is your last thought before sleeping, will be your first thought in the morning. So be careful about what you read, watch or listen right before you sleep. Today it's Windy and in my observation, your emotions get attached to the surrounding. When I was in Brazil for a couple of months, mornings were cold generally and days hot. So now when in Delhi it's a little windy and cold my feeling takes my directly to 7000 miles away. And when it's extremely cold weather wind then it takes me to Washington. Even though several years passed but that feeling still fresh. Image by  Gerd Altmann  from  Pixabay   Today we are going to learn Master communication with yourself by Tony Robbins You must master self-communication. Jerry was in Vietnam in a prison for 7 years not wider than his body. When he came out he said it was the most powerful experience. He had 2 options.  Option 1: My life is finished. Option 2: Why you did this with me, God? He gets...

Just a random thought, our health is the most important thing in life. Apart from other things we should keep it on top. But sadly 97 % of people neglect it and suffer. As you start suffering from health, your performance in other areas of your life also starts deteriorating.  My mentor Robin Sharma says on our journey to success we have to maintain a balance amongst the 4 interior empires of the history-makers: Mindset is the 1st interior empire. A lot of people says mindset is everything. Surely it's important and there are other 3 core areas too to focus.  Heart-set is the 2nd interior empire. Working on your heart set thorough meditation, motivation. Forgive the people who hurt you. I have worked a lot on my heart set to release the anger inside and let go of my past. In this world, we want more cars, more food, more about everything to feed the hollow space inside. Working on this 2nd interior empire you feel more secure. Health-set it's the 3rd interior empire. It's ...

I had to go out yesterday for some work and now it feels strange going out. Since March end I'm in home and coronavirus is splurging out. People talk about it casually and I'm very serious that if some important work is there and I'm getting compensate proportionately only then I step out. I refuse so many opportunities to work which in the normal course I would happily do. I remember our chief minister saying "This is an extraordinary time and we need extraordinary measures".                                                                                I mage by  mohamed Hassan  from  Pixabay   Today we have a one of the greatest speech by Oprah Winfrey:- No. 1 She asking the bigger question. Who am I? She answers she is God's child. ...

It's a new day of the month. September has arrived like walking without noise. 8 months have gone and now the countdown has begun for the new year. Several years ago I developed a habit that I will walk the talk. I did very well and people started noticing my honesty and loyalty. There I met some people who expected from me what I say, I have to do and they were exceptions. I kept doing my part and those people kept running away. Because of this, I was in a loss. Then I thought about it and came to the conclusion that as soon they step back I'll also. Now people started getting angry and blaming me. Then I reminded them what deal we made. After that, a very few stayed back and the rest of them disappeared. I am in a public profession. I work on promises. And in my observation, 99 % of people break the promise about making payment after the work is done. Now I don't say anything and continue working. I focus on work and that's it. Image by  Gerd Altmann  from  Pixabay ...

  I journal in the morning when the mind is free and no disturbing voices around. Listening some English old songs that played automatically on my music app and I wondered it's so sweet. "Jim Reeves" has become my favourite in no time. It's an early morning today. And I got time to study finally. I fixed my computer yesterday. It took a whole day in buying RAM and installing windows. Image by  Gerd Altmann  from  Pixabay   Today we are going to learn from Inside personal growth: Greg Voisen podcast interviewing Peter Kozodoy an Inc. 5000 serial entrepreneur, TEDx speaker, and business coach who works with organizations and their leaders to help them overcome self-limiting bullsh*t and use brutal honesty to achieve massive success. He is the author of Honest to Greatness and currently serves as CEO of his newest startup, Stradeso . Honest to Greatness: Peter Kozodoy Where are the modern leaders, Peter asks? Why honesty is so important in the business world? We ...